Swinger mistakes

There may be quite a few pitfalls when entering a swing, but that does not mean that they will be encountered by all without exception. Some couples enter into a threesome dating simply and relaxedly, like in clean water. But not everyone is that lucky. That’s why we have collected the most common mistakes of beginners. Maybe this article will help somebody not to step on the rake that hundreds of swing couples have already gone through.

  1. It’s a rush to choose partners. Beginners in swinging may not realize that sometimes the choice of a suitable pair can be very long. At some point, they lose patience and instead of continuing to search for a suitable couple for both of them decide to just try with the first one caught, just to get experience and soon. This threatens with disappointment from the first swing experience, quarrels, spoiled impressions.
  2. Sex without a condom. It is also a common situation when a couple of newcomers decide to have sex without a condom, as new acquaintances look very clean and assure that they are checked for STDs. But in the end, after a while, the couple realize that they have picked up something. So they have to go to the doctor. So when you have sex with another couple, make sure you use condoms.
  3. Excessive alcohol consumption. Excitement, stress, panic, fear, jealousy… All this is jammed with alcohol, but many people forget the consequences: weak erection in men, reduced activity in women, in some cases, increased aggression and injury. And on trifles – the next day you do not remember anything headache and other joys hangover.
  4. Hanging demands on the other couple. Sometimes couples, entering the swing, imagine that they are about to meet Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. And they start looking for a super-perfect couple. And then they pay attention to even the slightest flaw. As a result, all attempts at getting to know each other end in disappointment. It’s very difficult to find a perfect match for all four of them. Sometimes you might think what criteria are critical to you. And what may be the additional criteria.
  5. Not to discuss boundaries and prohibitions. If you have any unacceptable scenarios, if there is something about sex that you don’t accept, or if there are prohibitions, then you should tell your couple about them so that they know. Remember that other people are not psychics. And even an experienced couple may not be aware of your limitations and, without knowing about them, accidentally cross the boundaries. The result is jealousy, quarrels and questions. But in reality, it is harmonious when both sides are warned and can control the process.
  6. Looking for the same inexperienced couple. The result is that everyone has a lot of embarrassment, no one knows how to move from talking to sex. And all four of them are jealous of each other. In the case of jealousy, no one can handle the situation because they have no experience. Here’s a great article about how to have a threesome.
  7. Fear of saying no. It happens that people with whom you communicate seem to be pleasant, and your partner for continuing the meeting, and there is no obvious reason to say “no”.  And so everyone agrees, and it’s embarrassing to say, “No, I don’t like this idea.” Absolutely nothing good can come out of this agreement. Remember, swing is for mutual pleasure only. Something worries, confuses, raises doubts – do not force yourself to participate. It is unlikely to bring pleasure to both you and potential partners. But do not shut yourself out of fears, or “yes” will not sound.
  8. Beginners in the swing forget about their halves. Bright emotions, new partners, delightful sex. And you can get totally carried away with it. And if the other partner isn’t so carried away at this point, he’ll feel left out. Therefore, in the first experiments should pay special attention to your partner to feel, support, show that you still care about him and love him.